Posts Tagged "Life Coaching"

Your Upside Down

Posted on Sep 9, 2016

Like so many others, I have been completely captivated by the Netflix series ‘Stranger Things’. As a child of the 70’s and 80’s, what’s not to love?? Everything from the clothing to the hair styles to the fabulously ominous synthesized 80’s horror movie music is right up my alley—and the fact that they meticulously pay homage to just about every cult classic movie from that time period in some way, shape or form. Here is where I warn you; if you haven’t seen it and plan on watching, be prepared for some spoilers. As I watched, It really struck me how the ‘Upside Down’ isn’t just a place that these characters deal with in the show…in our own messy lives, we too often face going into the Upside Down. It’s a damn scary place to be—and we don’t even get the benefit of an 80’s keyboard soundtrack while we’re in there. Seriously, have you ever felt like your whole world has been turned upside down? It’s a perfect way to describe it, as that place has you feeling disoriented. It looks a lot like your own world, but it’s a foreign place–a place you don’t really know how to navigate because that’s not how your world normally is. Often...

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Confessions of a Metal Mommy 0

Confessions of a Metal Mommy

Posted on Feb 4, 2015

I recently wrote an essay that I was to read as an audition to speak for an event that celebrates Motherhood. I decided not to participate, but I thought I’d share what I wrote. Just in case any of you other Unconventional Moms out there needed to know that you are not alone…. (yes, I’m in that photo…upper middle…don’t anyone light a match!!) You know when you hear the story about the innocent girl from the midwest who steps off the bus onto Hollywood Blvd with all of her belongings in one bag and a guitar slung over her shoulder, determined to become a star? Well, that girl was me about 25 years ago, except that I arrived in a ’69 VW Bug with a pooping cat and a few more bags. After attending college for one whole year, I blew that popsicle stand because ‘you don’t need a degree to be a rock star.’ I spent about 3 years living the life in Hollywood, singing in a heavy metal band—rubbing elbows with celebrities, my bottle of Boones Farm and I hitting all-night drunken parties, dating dudes with names like Scat, Bumper and Roach, passing out band flyers on the Sunset Strip and singing my heart out to anyone...

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It’s Time to Write Your Own Story 0

It’s Time to Write Your Own Story

Posted on Oct 30, 2014

So much of what we think, feel and choose to experience is something we learned from someone else from our past. When we are very young, we must rely on the people immediately around us for all of our answers. We watch and mimic, taking it all in as the script of our lives. But what if our parents and siblings weren’t very good teachers? What if they learned some pretty nasty harmful stuff from their immediate surroundings? It’s kind of a bleak thought, but I believe it’s an essential one if we are going to move ahead in our lives and manifest some serious badassery. Obviously, if you had less-than-ideal juju around you as a child, there isn’t a thing you can do about that now. The past is the past–but it is our past. No matter what happened to us back then, we can use what we’ve learned to move forward. The first step is to make sure your thoughts and opinions are your own, and not someone else’s from way back when. But how do we know? Unless we are sociopaths, most of us have our own internal compass that tells us if something feels right or not. Our brains will lie to us constantly, as it tends...

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She’s Got What I Don’t Have. But Why? 0

She’s Got What I Don’t Have. But Why?

Posted on Jun 17, 2014

I had the most enlightening conversation this morning with my very best client—me. Doing my usual just-risen routine, scanning messages and Facebook as I hear the coffee pot rumble, I came across a beautiful, successful FB friend of mine doing things I would love to do and having lots of money to do it. My coffee-deprived (and food deprived..I’m coming off of a deep cleanse day with NO FOOD) Gollum brain immediately kicks in with, “Damnit. I want what she has.” It’s kind of an annoying thing, truth be told, but since I’m a life coach when some kind of self-loathing thought whines in my head I automatically start challenging it with smart-ass life coachy banter. Typically it all starts with repetition of only one William Shatner-type word. “Why?” “Because she has lots of money.” “Why?” “Because she’s earned it.” “Why?” “Because she went to school for XYZ and earned a degree.” “Why?” “Because she was interested in that.” “Were you interested in that?” “no.” “Did you go to school to get a degree in something that could make you a lot of money?” “no…” Now we all know that money can’t buy happiness and there are lots of ways to make it—even, no especially!—doing something you love. But...

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What To Wear When You’re 30,40, 50… 0

What To Wear When You’re 30,40, 50…

Posted on Mar 18, 2014

(Some serious late 80’s/early 90’s Hollywood Rocker Fashion–can you find me?!) I’m curious—how do you react when you see articles that tell you what you should wear at a certain age? Do you find it helpful? Do you tend to follow the rules? As for myself, I can’t help but get my heckles up every time I see this kind of thing. ‘What to Wear in Your 40’s?’  “Anything I damn well please!”, I’ve been known to answer out loud to the magazine cover. I suppose it’s a valid question that people ask themselves. When a woman reaches a certain age, or a certain stage in her life, she often wonders how to present herself to the world.  I’ve recently had a very stylish friend tell me she has no idea what her ‘style’ is these days. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that she’s on the verge of a huge transition–her kids are getting older and she’s starting to find her new road. And no doubt, I’ve walked into a store and looked at something cute on the racks and thought it wasn’t for me because it looked ‘too young’–I’m not pouring myself into short-shorts or hopping on the ol’ hay wagon in the newly-revived trend of overalls. (was...

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Real Interview! — David Finch! 0

Real Interview! — David Finch!

Posted on Mar 11, 2014

As a Life Coach and self-proclaimed Unconventional, I guess you could say my main goal is to help other Unconventionals learn how to celebrate who they are; how to find a way to be that person in a world that often expects us to be conventional. For my clients, this typically means that I help them to see the value of bringing who they really are and what they love into their lives. That they don’t have to ignore what lights them up or makes them tick, even if they spend much of their lives in a situation or career that doesn’t seem to align with those things. If they are the CEO of their company, they can still sing in a heavy metal band. They may love being a responsible parent, but it’s not wrong to crave a reckless sport like bungie jumping. Whether we consider ourselves unconventional or not, in order to earn a respectable place in society we all have to learn how to behave in a socially acceptable way. Unless you are a member of The Sex Pistols, you wouldn’t fart around the Queen. We wouldn’t swear at our grandmother’s funeral. Most of us wouldn’t break out in a Hammertime dance in the middle of an...

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